Mastering the Art of Being: Insights on Personal Growth with Aubrey Marcus
Introduction
Many of us define our worth by what we do—our careers, accomplishments, and productivity. But what if the true key to transformation isn’t in doing more but in becoming more? Aubrey Marcus, founder of Onnit and host of the Aubrey Marcus Podcast, joined Heal Squad with Maria Menounos to discuss how shifting our focus from doing to being can lead to profound personal growth. In this conversation, he shares how practices like breathwork, cold exposure, and even plant medicine journeys can unlock our full potential.
The Power of Being Over Doing
Marcus emphasizes that some of the most impactful people in history—figures like Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., and spiritual teacher Ram Dass—weren’t defined solely by their actions but by their way of being. Their achievements were a natural outgrowth of their essence. Marcus argues that instead of obsessing over our to-do lists, we should ask ourselves, Who am I being? and Who am I becoming? When we prioritize our state of being, our actions flow effortlessly from that foundation.
Training the Mind Through Discomfort
One of Marcus’ key philosophies is that we must train ourselves to embrace discomfort to expand our capacity for growth. He advocates practices like cold showers and ice baths, which not only have physiological benefits but also strengthen mental resilience. “You are not rewarded for the comfortable choice,” he states, highlighting how small acts of discipline, like ending a warm shower with 30 seconds of cold water, can condition us to tackle bigger challenges in life.
The Transformational Power of Psychedelic Journeys
Marcus has been exploring plant medicine for over 20 years, including ayahuasca, a powerful Amazonian brew known for its transformative properties. He describes how these experiences have helped him confront deep-seated fears, heal past traumas, and gain clarity about his life’s purpose.
While ayahuasca isn’t for everyone, Marcus stresses that those considering it should do their due diligence—choosing experienced guides, listening to their intuition, and ensuring they are ready for the emotional intensity of the experience. For those who are hesitant, he recommends starting with non-psychedelic approaches to self-exploration, such as float therapy, breathwork, and ecstatic dance.
Alternative Paths to Self-Discovery
For those not ready to explore psychedelics, Marcus suggests three powerful alternative practices:
- Sensory Deprivation (Float Therapy): Floating in a dark, silent, saltwater tank allows the mind to enter deep relaxation and introspection, reducing stress and promoting clarity.
- Shamanic Breathwork: This form of intentional breathing helps release emotional blockages and access altered states of consciousness without the use of substances.
- Ecstatic Dance: Freeform movement to music allows for emotional release and heightened states of awareness, connecting individuals to their inner selves through uninhibited expression.
Redefining Success in the 21st Century
Marcus embodies a new paradigm of success—one that integrates ambition with well-being. Rather than subscribing to the outdated hustle culture that prioritizes relentless work and material gain, he advocates a balanced approach that includes rest, play, and community. His Fit for Service mastermind program brings people together in a tribe-like setting, combining personal development with deep emotional and spiritual work.
Conclusion
Aubrey Marcus’ insights challenge us to rethink how we define success, self-worth, and personal growth. By prioritizing being over doing, embracing discomfort as a tool for resilience, and exploring alternative healing modalities, we can create a life that is not just productive but deeply fulfilling.
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