Navigating Grief and Spiritual Connection with Sah D’Simone: How to Prepare for Loss and Heal Through Ritual
Introduction
Grief is an inevitable part of life, yet so many of us are unprepared when it arrives at our doorstep. On Heal Squad with Maria Menounos, spiritual teacher, author, and chaplain Sah D’Simone shares his deeply personal journey of losing his mother, navigating grief, and the powerful role that spiritual connection and somatic awareness play in healing. From the importance of having a health directive in place to understanding how our bodies communicate with us in times of loss, this conversation offers invaluable wisdom for anyone experiencing or anticipating grief.
The Importance of Health Directives: Preparing for the Inevitable
One of the most critical takeaways from Sah’s experience is the importance of having a health directive in place before a crisis occurs. Too often, families are left scrambling to make decisions during emotionally turbulent times.
“I say it all the time,” Maria shares. “I made my parents sign years ago because I never want to be in that situation without a plan. It really helped in that moment.”
Sah echoes this sentiment, recalling how his mother’s final days were impacted by a lack of proper care. “The medical staff was neglectful. Her lips were chapped, her hands were cold, and no one had ensured she was comfortable. We had to advocate for her in real-time, but it shouldn’t have been that way.”
Having a health directive means you or your loved ones have a clear, legally binding plan for medical care, ensuring that your wishes are respected in moments when you may not be able to communicate them.
Somatic Awareness: Listening to Your Body’s Messages
One of the most profound aspects of Sah’s journey was the way his body reacted before he even knew the full extent of his mother’s illness.
“I started to have panic attacks out of nowhere. My body was shutting down. It wasn’t until later that I realized my body knew before I did that my mother was dying.”
Somatic awareness—the practice of tuning into the body’s signals—is crucial in times of grief and transition. Our bodies often process emotions before our minds catch up.
Maria relates to this experience, recalling moments when she felt overwhelming grief without a clear reason, only to later realize she was picking up on something larger than herself.
This conversation is a reminder that our bodies communicate with us in powerful ways. Whether it’s anxiety, fatigue, or unexplained physical pain, acknowledging and addressing these signals can help us process our emotions more effectively.
Ritualizing Grief: A Pathway to Healing
Grief is not something to be ignored or rushed through—it needs to be integrated into our lives. Sah emphasizes the importance of creating rituals around grief to help navigate the healing process.
“When my mom passed, I performed rituals to help guide her transition. I set up an altar, used holy water, and engaged in prayer and chanting,” Sah shares.
While not everyone may be inclined to perform religious rituals, personalizing the grieving process through creative or intentional acts—writing letters, creating art, lighting candles, or even taking walks—can provide immense relief.
“Grief needs to move,” Sah explains. “If we don’t give it an outlet, it stays trapped in our bodies.”
Maria also shares how she transformed her mother’s passing into a peaceful experience, ensuring her mother’s room was filled with music, love, and laughter.
The Power of Connection in Healing
One of the most heartbreaking realities Sah discusses is how many people die alone, without loved ones by their side.
“Connection is the cure,” Sah states. “We can’t do this thing alone. We have to show up for each other.”
Maria agrees, emphasizing that being present for someone in grief, even in small ways, makes a huge difference.
“You don’t have to have the perfect words. Just showing up, checking in, or even sending a daily text can mean the world to someone who is grieving,” Maria advises.
Walking Through Grief: Movement as Therapy
To help process his grief, Sah embarked on the El Camino de Santiago pilgrimage with his father, a 500-mile journey that allowed them to move through their emotions together.
“Walking helped move the grief through my body,” Sah explains. “There’s something powerful about putting one foot in front of the other and letting nature hold your emotions.”
Movement—whether it’s a walk, dance, or any physical activity—can be a powerful tool for emotional release. It reminds us that grief doesn’t have to be stagnant; it can be carried forward in a way that fosters healing and renewal.
Final Thoughts
Losing a loved one is one of the most challenging experiences any of us will face, but by preparing for it, listening to our bodies, ritualizing our grief, and leaning on our community, we can navigate loss with greater awareness and resilience.
As Sah beautifully puts it, “Grief is always going to be part of our lives. The more we embrace it, the more we open ourselves to the full experience of being human.”
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